Thursday, March 5, 2020
How to deal with a manager you cant stand - Introvert Whisperer
Introvert Whisperer / How to deal with a manager you canât stand - Introvert Whisperer How to deal with a manager you canât stand Almost all of us have that one person in our lives that rubs up the wrong way. For some itâs their neighbour, for others itâs a politician and then there are people who, for whatever reason, just canât stand their manager. Having a manager you get on with is important; 77% of employees who said they were engaged in their workplace described positive interactions with their manager, as opposed to 23% of those disengaged. Perhaps they micromanage, donât reward you sufficiently or keep assigning you endless unnecessary tasks that they could do themselves? Now, what to do about it? Changing jobs seems like a bit of an extreme solution to such a problem but should you just cut your losses and deal with it? Or are there any ways to alleviate this workplace issue from giving you a bad day at work, every day. Here are some tips: Accept them for who they are â" people just like anyone else You must have heard the age-old phrase ânobodyâs perfectâ a million times before. Itâs a tried-and-true phrase which applies to everyone, including your manager. And who knows, perhaps he/she is genuinely doing his/her best, despite displaying absolutely terrible managerial skills. Just consider the other persons mental state. Maybe this is the only way they can behave, maybe they really canât do any better (in which case this is something their superior should take into account, by the way). Strangely enough, if you let go of expectations about how your manager should act and think, your relationship with him/her will improve exponentially, too. Socialise outside of work If you have work socials, make it your task to get to know your manager outside of the setting of work. This change of scenery might help to forge a better relationship without the hierarchy the office brings about. This out of work bonding could cause a softening of the atmosphere upon return to the office. Consider your part to play Often when there is a conflict between two people, there is a part to play for both parties. Perhaps you are slow to respond to emails or carry out tasks, or slack on tasks that you donât enjoy. By tackling everyday jobs to the best of your ability and showing your manager you are motivated is bound to come off well. If you have a problem, be honest and open about it. How do you expect your manager to know youâre unhappy unless you tell them outright? Effective communication The most stress-relieving, liberating, and arguably most assertive and constructive way to deal with your grudges is to simply go and confront your manager about them. He/she will most certainly appreciate your assertiveness and openness and youâll know youâve mastered another handy soft skill â" ability to resolve conflict openly and constructively. Needless to stay, âthe graveness of your concernsâ will be a decisive factor on whether you will confront him/her or not. If you canât stand being a witness to their horrendous fashion style on a day-to-day basis, donât confront them about it. What is it exactly that drives you nuts about your manager? Is it something that could be discussed out in the open without either of the parties feeling awkward and, above all, without you getting fired? If so, then go ahead and do it since that would be a fantastic opportunity to eradicate your problem instantly and permanently (without having to change jobs). Your resentment raises your blood pressure, not theirs If youâre one of those people who canât stand their manager, the following lines are going to make you reconsider your attitude. Elizabeth Cohen, a senior medical correspondent for CNNâs health, wellness and medical unit, explores in her article how feeling persistently resentful toward other people, say, the annoying and unfair micromanagement style of your manager, can affect your physical well-being. Believe it or not, thereâs such a thing as PTED or post-traumatic embitterment disorder; a proper full-blown diagnosis which describes people who cant forgive others transgressions against them (read: your managerâs irksome behavior). The repercussions of nurturing resentful feelings toward others take the form of poor physical health. Simply said, being mad at people is bad for your health. And lo and behold, there was even a whole book written on this subject: âEmbitterment: Societal, psychological, and clinical perspectives. One chapter focuses on what bitterness does to your body and explains in a detailed way that when we feel negatively toward someone, our bodies instinctively prepare to fight that person, which leads to changes such as an increase in blood pressure and C-reactive protein (very bad for your heart and other body parts). Stop being mad at your manager, he/she probably doesnât even know nor does he/she care. Itâs you who gets the short end of the stick. Keep reminding yourself of all the physical harm youre doing to yourself by wallowing in bitterness. Author Bio: Kat Matiasovska writes for Inspiring Interns, which specialises in finding candidates their perfect internship. To browse our graduate jobs London listings, visit our website. Go to top Power-Influence-Office Politics: it comes down to your Strategic Relationships and understanding of how you build each one of these elements. 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